An empowering 4-month group coaching program for women who are tired of feeling
Relationships are the cornerstone of our existence. We are in relation
I want to share a story about a “selfless” woman called Rebecca…. perhaps you will be able to relate to her and see parts of yourself in her story…
Rebecca is a kind-hearted, deeply caring, super nice lady.
She is well loved by her community, she is constantly there for others.
Everyone knows that they can call on Rebecca for anything they need… and she will be there – running errands, listening to your complaints, leading campaigns, picking up the load no else wants to, attending almost every social event,school prize giving, professional mingles, supporting her partner’s rising career, her children’s accomplishments and running her own side business all at the same time.
From the outside it seems like Rebecca is PERFECT! She has everything under control, she is happy, successful, has it all. She is popular, beautiful, kind, accomplished.
On the inside – Rebecca feels overwhelmed and fatigued. She does not feel perfect nor happy nor popular. There is a constant critical voice within – which she is sometimes conscious of, at other times not- which tells her that she is “not good enough”, and needs to “be more, do more and have more”
….Her body, mind and heart is exhausted.
From time to time she feels resentful towards everyone who demands so much of her attention.
She feels guilty when she has to run from one coffee meeting to the next errand she is doing for someone else. Her mind is scattered in a hundred different directions.
She feels guilty when she says no to a favour, because she feels so blessed in her own life.
She feels guilty when she is so exhausted, that she doesn’t have the extra patience with her kids at night.
Sometimes when she looks in the mirror, she doesn’t know who she is anymore…. And feels like a fraud… but she’s too deep in now.
People have given her this title of ‘SUPER-woman’ – and now she has to live up to being the Super-mom-friend-daughter-wife-lover-entrepreneur….
Sometimes, in the privacy of her own thoughts she fantasizes about running away…. being completely anonymous… not needing to care for anyone else…. no demands to take care of…nothing to fix or rescue…. no needing to be ‘someone’ for everyone else.
She is always saying yes to everyone else, but never says YES to her own needs.
And then one day…. After years of living this pattern – placing everyone else’s needs in-front of her own well-being….
Her body said a hard NO!!!!
Her body said STOP.
Her body demanded to be listened to.
Her body said : “ I have LIMITS”.
She had no choice, and had to listen.
And this is how Rebecca came to sit in my office, to start her Heroine’s journey into the heart of this pattern which needed to change NOW, or her health, relationships and business would be compromised further.
We uncovered that this pattern of pleasing others through self-sacrifice was rooted in early childhood.
When she behaved in a way her primary caregivers wanted her too, she was praised, loved, acknowledged.
When she didn’t behave in accordance with their expectations, she was shamed, dismissed and love was withheld.
This was the first time she placed on the mask, the first time she started EARNING HER WORTH THROUGH PEOPLE PLEASING….
This became her survival pattern into adulthood.
At 40, she realised she barely ever asked herself
what she needed?
What she truly wanted? Or
How she wanted to spend her one precious life…
Her biggest breakthrough came the moment she could let go of the fear of being discovered as a ‘fraud’ – and uncovered that the disease to please was the real fraudster…
it was the identity she created to earn her value…
We did an inventory of the true costs of wearing this mask…the costs were simply too high…
We braved into the part she played in these relationship dynamics. She taught others to depend on her. She gave away her power to needing other’s approval of her – this was the only way she felt good enough.
When Rebecca could own her story, she stopped hustling for her worthiness outside of herself…
She learnt the profound value of setting boundaries to protect her worth, her health, her freedom, her emotional well-being.
She learnt that when others got really upset by her setting these new boundaries, that it was about their own needs which no longer got met.
Now, Rebecca practices the Sacred No – guilt free.
And this has changed her whole life!
Knowing that when she says No, she is saying yes to inner peace, freedom, well-being and radical self-care.
Now, when she says Yes, it is in alignment with her value system which is rooted in compassion, love, truth, connection and being present whole-heartedly.
As Rebecca kept building healthy boundaries and rediscovered her authentic self, she chooses to live, love and lead her best, beautiful life!
If you can relate to Rebecca, and you are READY to do the ‘the work”, brave the Heroine’s journey into Building clear, solid, transparent, empowering Boundaries as your baseline which cultivate living, loving and leading your BEST, most Beautiful Life – then perhaps this Boundary Baseline program is just the course for you?
Mastering the Art of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, gifts you
Knowing who you are; knowing what you want & don’t want; and the wise why behind these choices, gifts you the luminous clarity to make decisions easy. This clarity is your heart-compass which guides choices which align you with living your best life, being your authentic self, making choices which support your true heart’s desires. What would you choose if you felt truly seen?
When we start living in a drama-free zone, we suddenly have more personal time available, more energy, and more compassion. Living, loving and leading from the core of your personal truth is a game-changer. Imagine how different your life will be when you feel empowered and completely Free to be your wholehearted self. What would you do differently if you felt entirely liberated?
At the end of this course, you will have the confidence to advocate for yourself and to reclaim your personal space in your life. You will have the mindset, the heartfulness
You feel taken advantage of, or untrusting in relationships.
Your personal space or privacy is being invaded.
You are being subjected to others ideas, feelings and actions.
You feel disrespected, belittled or disregarded.
You feel bullied, abused or subjected to aggressive behaviour.
Time & Energy
You are exhausted from toxic drama and need personal time to recover.
Often we are unclear about what boundaries actually are, and unaware of how mastering this skill can radically transform our lives in the direction of heart-centered living, loving and leading.
When we are unclear about our personal boundaries and the behaviour, people, and experiences we do or do not want to allow, invite and include in our lives, we will experience:
- toxic drama triangles;
- betrayal or broken trust;
- avoiding conflict;
- broken relationships;
- choosing unhealthy partnerships;
- low self-worth;
- feeling overworked and anxious at the office;
- feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, disappointed, and stuck;
- struggle with hard conversations;
- feeling guilty saying “No”
1. The ‘disease-to-please’
How much time to do end up spending on other people’s demands, opinions and requests? One of the top reasons women struggle with setting boundaries, is the fear of disappointing people they care about.
This can be exhausting, and actually creates inner conflict, keeping inner peace outside of your reach. Perhaps you even spend hours ruminating over past conversations and what you should or should not have said?
Seeking approval or permission from others OR protecting yourself to the extend of isolation will never create the authentic life you desire.
Don’t think you have it? How many times do you end doing things for others you don’t really want to?
2. Repeating Patterns
Our first experience with relationships are formulated during early childhood. We will repeat what we observed until we consciously evaluate if these past patterns of learned behaviour are serving us in the present.
Women often carry an unconscious belief that they do not have ‘the right’ to ask for what they need, to negotiate requests, or have permission to speak their truth. These beliefs will lead to weak or no boundaries. The opposite may also apply, where you may have rigid boundaries and protect yourself through aggressive communication to be heard or acknowledged.
Until you re-evaluate your boundary story, you will continue to repeat the patterns.
When you don’t know who you are, what you stand for and what you don’t stand for, you will fall for anything.
We receive the love we think we deserve. If you clarify your value system, know what matters most to you, then you will be able to advocate for yourself and negotiate your needs, requests, and preferences in life.
You may think that you don’t have a right to your feelings or perspective.
If you can relate to any of the above, then you probably need to clearly define your boundaries, discover the root cause of why you haven’t set them, and up-skill your boundary toolkit!
3. Avoiding conflict
You may believe that doing everything you can to keep your life conflict free, and doing whatever it takes NOT to rock the boat, in the hope that this will bring you the inner peace you crave.
The awakening truth, is that this strategy of over-giving in an attempt to control the chaos, and avoid the painful emotions, will only attract more destructive conflict into your world.
This high-functioning co-dependency is rooted in an overdeveloped sense of responsibility for other people’s actions and emotions.
Teaching the inner work and skills required to Master Healthy Boundaries has been a recurring topic in both my private sessions with
This masterclass is a compilation of tried and tested techniques and toolswhich teaches you the “HOW to” stop people from trampling over you; to get out of overwhelm no matter what your circumstances are; and to take back control of your life, so you can live and thrive without resentment.
Focusing souley on the core underlying issues which prevent or block us from setting healthy boundaries, and the know how to maintain and honour our boundaries, so that we can live our best lives. Looking forward to sharing the freedom, connection and compassion mastering the art of boundaries gifts us with you! Luminous Love, Eleftheria
At the end of this 4 month program, you will
Get clarity on what is and is not Ok with you.
Discover why you have boundary struggles and learn how to overcome it.
Learn how to set boundaries with ease, grace and clarity.
Learn how to manage boundary bullies and energy vampires.
Learn effective communication tools for having the hard conversations.
Learn how to stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others.
How to start living, loving and leading from your authentic self – because how can others love you authentically if they don’t know you authentically?
Boundary Love from attendees
“I signed up for the Boundaries master class as I felt exhausted in a number of my relationships, both personally and professionally. But there was one particular relationship that left me feeling abused, disrespected, belittled and irrelevant. These negative feelings started echoing through my life and I was feeling bereft and at total loss on how to change my increasing negative self-perception. The Boundaries master class took me on journey through the origins of my limiting self-beliefs from childhood, to the current agony I was experiencing in my relationships and then in to the tools that I could implement to make the necessary changesI needed in my life..
Eleftheria brings a certain kind of magic and presence to the process of personal development healing. It can’t be described with words or touched with your hands but it can most certainly be felt as a patiently powerful presence when she holds the space for you to walk into the depths of your soul to uncover all the self-doubt and fears that have unconsciously held me back throughout my life.
An indescribable shift happenswhen you start discover the gems of your existence are also hidden in the depths of that same soul. A deeply powerful experience.”
Sarah Bowes – Urban Savvy Design
“I knew for some time that I needed to look at boundaries, but I put it off for ages because it didn’t sound very sexy. It sounded cold, harsh and clinical and I could feel my resistance bubbling up. As usual with these things, life forced me into a place where I really had to examine my boundaries for the sake of my own health. Once I’d committed to the course, I was enthusiastic, but nothing could have prepared me for how fascinating, interesting, powerful and insightful the Master Class Training was! I never knew there was so much to boundaries! This work uncovers deeply hidden blind spots, unconscious childhood patterns and forces you to really ‘know thyself’. I found it incredibly refreshing that my boundaries were not going to be dictated by someone else: I get to choose what they are, it’s ok to have them and it’s ok to be who I am.
Because Eleftheria is an experienced counsellor and facilitator, she’s able to uncover a great dealin a very short time as well as hold the space for personal challenges to be discussed and resolved. I really felt held. All of us were able to talk through immediate, current problems which we faced within our lives. Understanding everything behind boundaries – what underpins them, what they are, why it’s important to have themand how to put them in place and maintain them – has been a valuable life lesson. I highly recommend this training! “
Bridget Finklaire – Author & Psychotherapist
Inside the Program
This 4 month online masterclass program is structured in three modules, and course material is covered in 12 lessons. In each lesson, you will receive expertly designed downloadable PDF worksheets filled with supportive content, and diagrams; downloadable audio and guided meditations, and power-packed video lessons.
You can dive straight into the course work at your own pace, or follow the weekly guide to integrate each step on this empowering journey.
Module 1 | Review
The first step on our game-changer journey starts with a life-review on your current boundary status. You will identify your current boundary style, and find the sweet spot.
You will clarify exactly what boundaries are, and how they impact your life daily.
We will unpack the 6 different types of boundaries and learn how to enmeshment creates exhaustion, how empaths can set & maintain compassionate boundaries, and how to manage boundaries in the digital age.
Lessons: Intention | Identify | Illuminate
We will clarify
Uncover your boundary story and the root issues which govern your boundary challenges. In this lesson, we start uncovering the unconscious drivers which prevent you from setting and maintaining boundaries.
Through completing the boundary diagram, you will get crystal clear on where the lines of responsibility are drawn. This assists us to release ourselves from taking on the ‘stuff’ which is not ours to bare.
Often we spot manipulation in the after effects of manipulation. In this lesson, we illuminate the ‘blind spots‘ we have in relation to others.
We will start listening to our innate intuition. And compile a list of
Module 2 | Reclaim
- Clarify what matters to you most;
- Identify your triggers, let go of over & under functioning;
- Understand the framework of trust and dispelling defense mechanisms;
- Strengthen your ability to stay calm in the face of boundary bullies;
- Cultivate compassion in shared boundaries of engagement;
- Transform the internal dialogue and narrative which blocks healthy, thriving relationships.
Lessons: Truth | Trust | Transform
At the entrance of ancient temples, the wise ones wrote: “Know Thyself”. When we are clear about who we are, what we stand for and what we don’t stand for, boundaries naturally flow from this knowing. In this lesson, we remember who we are and reclaim our worth.
Standing the sacred ground of your boundaries takes courage. In this
In our lesson in trust, we learn about the key factors which are at the heart of trust. Without trust, relationships are on very shaky ground. We unpack the actions which build trust and identify the ones which break trust. We also dive deeper into our self-trust paradigms and transform them into empowering discernment tools.
In our lesson on transformation, we learn about the 3 keys to self-compassion. Cultivate compassion in shared boundaries of engagement; Transform the internal dialogue and narrative which blocks healthy, thriving relationships.
Module 3 | Root
- Identify your core values;
- Learn effective communication tools;
- Cultivate the courage to navigate the hard conversations;
- Learn how to protect yourself without isolation or building armour;
- Clarify the strategies to hold your boundaries in place;
- Create your new boundary story and vision.
Lessons: Values | Vocalize | Vision
In our third
In our lesson on
We complete our Boundary Baseline journey by creating a new story. We write a clear vision for our
Drama Detox E-Book (2nd ed.) An empowering guide to living in the drama-free zone.
Access the Drama Detox Challenge Sessions. 7 x 30 minutes recordings of Live Sessions.
Private Facebook group to share boundary triumphs and encouragement.
The deep value of sharing this journey with a circle of like-hearted sisters. Magic happens when women gather in a circle with a common goal!
Educational webinarteaching you the tools to identify manipulative characters, understand pathology and skills to manage difficult characters.
Monthly zoom group coaching call.
4 group call in which we will cover Q & A, and a volunteer coaching session.
Q & A
Can’t I just sign up for the Boundary Baseline Online Program later?
This is the only time I’m opening to BBOP in 2019. Aside from signing up for private coaching, there won’t be another opportunity for your join the Boundary Baseline online Program this year. So, NOW is the time to enroll!
Who is the Boundary Baseline Online Program for?
If you are ready to do the inner work, to stop being manipulated, to stop feeling like your world is spinning out of control, and ready to reclaim your space & agency in your world, then this is the program for you.
When does the Boundary Baseline Online Program start?
How much access will I get to Eleftheria?
Every module training is done by Eleftheria. She will also be the in Facebook group responding to questions and giving additional support Boundary Baseline students like you. There is also a monthly live zoom group coaching call where you can ask questions and experience a coaching session with a volunteer.
What is the investment?
How does one put a price on personal, life-affirming, zest-for-life transformation? The Boundary Baseline Online Program including all the bonuses is worth a whopping R 20000,00 / $ 1300,00 in training fees, but you only pay R 8500,00 / $570,00 if you sign up now.
What is the refund or cancellation policy?
I believe wholeheartedly in this program, so much so, that I will remove the risk for you. I offer a money back guarantee within 2 weeks of signing up. All you need to do is pop me an e-mail, show me your completed worksheets and let me know why this program is not the right fit for you after all, and I will refund your full fee. I highly doubt that this will need to happen!
Is there a VIP option for the Boundary Baseline Online Program?
Yes! It includes 3 x 60 minute private session calls with Eleftheria.
Click on HERE to view my Facebook Live talk, covering the 3 core reasons people don’t honour our boundaries.