Relationships are the cornerstone of our lives. We are in relation with everything that touches our lives. We have a relationship with food, money, people, our past, present and future, and the environment we live in. All of these relations are connected through the golden thread to our relationship with self.
If we cultivate a healthy core, we are free to experience the transformative power of love, to access our true heart's longing, to express our purpose and to live our best selves in this one precious life.
The happiest, successful and most compassionate people have
one thing in common.....
The skills to create
clear, solid, transparent, expansive boundaries.
Mastering the Art of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, gifts you
At the end of this course, you will have the confidence to advocate for yourself and to reclaim your personal space in your life. You will have the mindset, the heartfulness and the failsafe tools, to confidently navigate the hard conversations. Gifting yourself permission to ask for what you need.
How different would your relationships, career and self-esteem be, if you felt heard?
Knowing who you are; knowing what you want & don't want; and the wise why behind these choices, gifts you the luminous clarity to make decisions easy. This clarity is your heart-compass which guides choices which align you with living your best life, being your authentic self, making choices which support your true heart's desires.
What would you choose if you felt truly seen?
When we start living in a drama-free zone, we suddenly have more personal time available, more energy, and more compassion. Living, loving and leading from the core of your personal truth is a game-changer. Imagine how different your life will be when you feel empowered and completely Free to be your wholehearted self.
What would you do differently if you felt entirely liberated?
You feel taken advantage of, or untrusting in relationships.
Your personal space or privacy is being invaded.
You are being subjected to others ideas, feelings and actions.
You feel disrespected, belittled or disregarded.
You feel bullied, abused or subjected to aggressive behaviour.
Time & Energy
You are exhausted from toxic drama, and need personal time to recover.
Clearly setting and maintaining boundaries can make or break a
relationship, loveship or career.
In the absence of clearly defined boundaries, chaos thrives.
Often we are unclear about what boundaries actually are, and unaware of how mastering this skill can radically transform our lives in the direction of heart-centred living, loving and leading.
When we are unclear about our personal boundaries and the behaviour, people, and experiences we do or do not want to allow, invite and include in our lives, we will experience:
- toxic drama triangles
- betrayal or broken trust
- avoid conflict
- broken relationships
- choose unhealthy partnerships
- low self-worth
- feel overworked and anxious at the office
- feel overwhelmed, exhausted, disappointed, and stuck
- struggle with hard conversations
- feel guilty saying "No"
So what exactly stops us from setting healthy boundaries?
1. The 'disease-to-please'
How much time to do end up spending on other people's demands, opinions and requests? One of the top reasons women struggle with setting boundaries, is the fear of disappointing people they care about.
This can be exhausting, and actually creates inner conflict, keeping inner peace outside of your reach. Perhaps you even spend hours ruminating over past conversations and what you should or should not have said?
Seeking approval or permission from others OR protecting yourself to the extend of isolation will never create the authentic life you desire.
Don't think you have it? How many times do you end doing things for others you don't really want to?
2. Repeating Patterns
Our first experience with relationships are formulated during early childhood. We will repeat what we observed until we consciously evaluate if these past patterns of learnt behaviour is serving us in the present.
Women often carry an unconscious belief that they do not have 'the right' to ask for what they need, to negotiate requests, or have permission to speak their truth. These beliefs will lead to weak or no boundaries. The opposite may also apply, where you may have rigid boundaries and protect yourself through aggressive communication to be heard or acknowledged.
Until you re-evaluate your boundary story, you will continue to repeat the patterns.
3. Avoiding conflict
You may believe that doing everything you can to keep your life conflict free, and doing whatever it takes NOT to rock the boat, in the hope that this will bring you the inner peace you crave.
The awakening truth, is that this strategy of over-giving in an attempt to control the chaos, and avoid the painful emotions, will only attract more destructive conflict into your world.
This high-functioning co-dependency is rooted in an overdeveloped sense of responsibility for other people's actions and emotions.
When you don't know who you are, what you stand for and what you don't stand for, you will fall for anything.
We receive the love we think we deserve. If you clarify your value system, know what matters most to you, then you will be able to advocate for yourself and negotiate your needs, requests and preferences in life.
You may think that you don't have a right to your feelings, or perspective.
If you can relate to any of the above, then you probably need to clearly define your boundaries, discover the root cause of why you haven't set them, and up skill your boundary toolkit!
Teaching the inner work and skills required to Master Healthy Boundaries has been a recurring topic in both my private sessions with women, and in group seminars, over the course of more than a decade. The results of this powerful, life-altering practice is so deeply valuable, that I was inspired to create a comprehensive Masterclass Course.
This masterclass is a compilation of tried and tested techniques and tools which teaches you the "HOW to" stop people from trampling over you; to get out of overwhelm no matter what your circumstances are; and to take back control of your life, so you can live and thrive without resentment.
Focusing souley on the core underlying issues which prevent or block us from setting healthy boundaries, and the know how to maintain and honour our boundaries, so that we can live our best lives.
In the Healthy Boundaries Masterclass
You will learn
Get clarity on what is and is not Ok with you.
Discover why you have boundary struggles and learn how to overcome it.
Learn how to set boundaries with ease, grace and clarity.
Learn how to manage boundary bullies and energy vampires.
Learn effective communication tools for having the hard conversations.
Learn how to stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others.
How to start living, loving and leading from your authentic self - because how can others love you authentically if they don't know you authentically?
Healthy Boundary Masterclass Love
I signed up for the Boundaries master class as I felt exhausted in a number of my relationships, both personally and professionally. But there was one particular relationship that left me feeling abused, disrespected, belittled and irrelevant. These negative feelings started echoing through my life and I was feeling bereft and at total loss on how to change my increasing negative self-perception. The Boundaries master class took me on journey through the origins of my limiting self-beliefs from childhood, to the current agony I was experiencing in my relationships and then in to the tools that I could implement to make the necessary changes I needed in my life..
Eleftheria brings a certain kind of magic and presence to the process of personal development healing. It can’t be described with words or touched with your hands but it can most certainly be felt as a patiently powerful presence when she holds the space for you to walk into the depths of your soul to uncover all the self-doubt and fears that have unconsciously held me back throughout my life. An indescribable shift happenswhen you start discover the gems of your existence are also hidden in the depths of that same soul. A deeply powerful experience.
I knew for some time that I needed to look at boundaries, but I put it off for ages because it didn’t sound very sexy. It sounded cold, harsh and clinical and I could feel my resistance bubbling up. As usual with these things, life forced me into a place where I really had to examine my boundaries for the sake of my own health. Once I’d committed to the course, I was enthusiastic, but nothing could have prepared me for how fascinating, interesting, powerful and insightful the Master Class Training was! I never knew there was so much to boundaries! This work uncovers deeply hidden blind spots, unconscious childhood patterns and forces you to really ‘know thyself’. I found it incredibly refreshing that my boundaries were not going to be dictated by someone else: I get to choose what they are, it’s ok to have them and it’s ok to be who I am.
Because Eleftheria is an experienced counsellor and facilitator, she’s able to uncover a great deal in a very short time as well as hold the space for personal challenges to be discussed and resolved. I really felt held. All of us were able to talk through immediate, current problems which we faced within our lives. Understanding everything behind boundaries - what underpins them, what they are, why it’s important to have them and how to put them in place and maintain them - has been a valuable life lesson. I highly recommend this training!
Inside the Masterclass Seminar
Day 1 Review
The first step on our game-changer journey starts with a life-review on your current boundary status. You will uncover why you have particular boundary blocks, and how to overcome them.
- You will clarify exactly what boundaries are, and how they impact your life daily;
- Identify your current boundary style, and find the sweet spot;
- Learn how to manage boundaries in the digital age;
- Discover the underlying wise "why" behind your choice of personal and professional terms of engagement;
- Uncover your boundary story, and the root issues which govern your boundary challenges.
Day 2 Reclaim
On Day 2 we journey into the heart of reclaiming your personal truth, clarifying what matters to you most and learn how to set boundaries from this place.
- Clarify what matters to you most;
- Identify your triggers, let go of over & under functioning;
- Understand the framework of trust and dispelling defence mechanisms;
- Strengthen your ability to stay calm in the face of boundary bullies;
- Cultivate compassion in shared boundaries of engagement;
- Transform the internal dialogue and narrative which blocks healthy, thriving relationships.
On day 3 you will Root for your Rise.
- Identify your core values;
- Learn effective communication tools;
- Cultivate the courage to navigate the hard conversations;
- Learn how to protect yourself without isolation or building armour;
- Clarify the strategies to hold your boundaries in place;
- Create your new boundary story and vision.
Day 1 & 2 : 9 -10 March 2019
Day 3: t.b.c. March 2019
Living Art Permaculture Centre, Grabouw, Western Cape
This 3 Day Live Masterclass includes:
- A comprehensive manual with worksheets
- Access to the on-line study course
- Delicious Lunch and beverages
- Follow up check in circle after the masterclass is complete
- Transport to the venue.
- Accommodation in Elgin Valley. If you would like to make a weekend of it, I can send you various accommodation choices in the area.